Marthaler Family

Marthaler Family

Friday, June 21, 2013

Summer Fun

We are enjoying the beginning of summer!  We are on a new adventure after selling our house in under 3 weeks and having to move to temporary housing 30 days after our accepted offer.  We are blessed to be in a 2 bedroom apartment (short term rentals are NOT easy to come by).  We are adjusting to limited space, but enjoying the nice weather and finally warmer weather to swim in nice pool the apartment complex has.  Since it is mostly young professionals that live in these buildings, we often have the pool all to ourselves!

This summer is a bit different from years past.  3 out of 4 kids are school aged.  We decided after a crazy year of travel to Korea, adding another child, prepping house for sale, selling the house, selling our land, buying new land, moving to an apartment, and building a house, the kids would be home for the 2013-2014 school year.  They are all VERY excited, in fact, they are the ones that requested it.  I never pictured myself as a home school mom, but though prayer, I feel that God has softened my heart and opened me to a new and exciting world.  I love my kids and enjoy being with them.  I loved home schooling Ben this past year and look forward to the fun and challenging times ahead schooling 3 kids. We are getting a head start this summer.  In order to enjoy the school year and not be tied down to a strict school schedule and to give us enough time to get through all of the material, we decided to start schooling this summer.  Cami is working on 4th grade English and Reading with her friend, Anna, who she has been in school with the last 3 years.  Anna is staying home in the Fall as well, so they are enjoying beginning their home school year together. Cami is also beginning 4th grade Math.  Ben is working on History and 5th grade Math.  Sometimes he enjoys it, other times, he would rather take more time off. Thankfully he knows that by working during the summer (as he did last summer), he will get more time off during the school year for field trips and other fun activities.

The summer is not just school.  We decided this year to make a "Bucket List".  The kids each wrote down 10 things they would like to do by the end of summer.  They were told that they had to be realistic things (going to Korea, going to Disney World, and going on a cruise had to be taken out).  We have already enjoyed a few...(they are in blue when they are done)

1. Lots of swimming
     - with a pool at our apartment complex, we can make that a reality.  We are at the pool several times a week.  It gives the kids incentive to get the chores done and their school work done.
2. Have a field day at our new house
3. Play Skylanders
4. Go Frog Hunting
5. Have a movie marathon - have lots of yummy snacks including spicy cheetos
6. Go up north and have a sleepover/ camp out
7. Have a napithon
8. Play a game that Cami makes up
9. Go to Milwaukee Museum
10. Go hunting with a slingshot
11. Go to the Milwaukee Zoo
12. Go to the Circus Museum
13. Have a music day
14. Have a day off school
15. Do a reading contest (Barnes and Noble, Half Price Books, Library, BJU)
16. Have a pajama day
17. Go to the Dream Park
18. Go to a Splash Park
19. Cook / Bake treats to give to friends
20. Go Fishing
21. Play games all day
22. Have a sleepover
23. Go to the Farmer's Market
24.Go to a Beach
25. Rootbeer Floats at Culvers or A&W
26. Go to a Mallards game
27. Go to a Marcus Kids Movie (Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays)
28. See the Butterflies at Olbrich in August
29. Go Bowling
30. Go Mini Golfing
31. Have a playdate 
32. Have a Picnic
33. Visit animals at Animart
34. Walk around Olbrich Gardens
35. Michaels Crafts $2 Craft time Monday, Wednesday, and Friday
36. Go to Ella's Deli and ride the Carousel
37. MSCR Art Cart
38. Take a walk on State Street (Geology Museum, etc)
39. Make grass chia pets with grass seed in nylons then draw a face on it
40. Take a bike ride

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Grandparents Day 2013

A little over a month ago, Aladodo and Papa moved from Eugene.  Now they are only 45 minutes away and able to enjoy the activities at the kids school that they were unable to since they were so far away.  They enjoyed a wonderful day getting to know the kids teachers and friends and seeing what they do all day. Cami and Ian enjoyed showing off their grandma and grandpa.
Ian and grandma Aladodo enjoyed math time in Kindergarten.
 
A yummy lunch of tacos.
 Ian and his friends Amber and Cece helped Mrs. Mitten make the border for grandparents day.  Ian was happy to give up his recess to make handprints on the border for grandparents day!

Monday, January 28, 2013

Cascade Mountain

This year Ben is homeschooling.  One of the benefits of the home school academy we go through is the amazing field trips they offer.  The academy headed to Cascade Mountain today.  Since we just arrived home a few weeks ago, I stayed home, however, good friends of ours took Ben with them for the field trip. It was a perfect day to ski with the weather at 45 degrees.

An amazing opportunity to learn to ski and spend the day at the ski hill.  He had a great time and is already asking for skis for his birthday.

Thursday, January 10, 2013

We Match Hearts

I saw this posted online, so I thought I would share...


Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Santa's Christmas Prayer

The sleigh was all packed,
The reindeer were fed,
But Santa still knelt
By the side of the bed.

"Dear Father," he prayed,
"Be with me tonight,
There's much work to do,
And my schedule is tight."

"I must jump in my sleigh
And streak through the sky,
Knowing full well
That a reindeer can't fly."

"I will visit each household,
Before the first light,
I'll cover the world,
And all in one night."

"With sleigh bells a-ringing,
I'll land on each roof,
Amid the soft clatter
Of each little hoof."

"To get in the house
Is the difficult part,
So I'll slide down the chimney
Of each child's heart."

"My sack will hold toys
To grant all their wishes,
The supply will be endless,
Like the loaves and the fishes."

"I will fill all the stockings
And not leave a track,
I'll eat every cookie
That is left for my snack."

"I can do all these things Lord,
Only through You,
I just need your blessing,
Then it's easy to do."

"All this is to honor
The birth of the One,
That was sent to redeem us ...
Your most Holy Son."

"So to all of my friends,
Least Your glory I rob,
Please Lord,
remind them
Who gave me this job."

~ Warren D. Jennings ~ 

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Chosen

I follow a blog called MPAK, Mission to Promote Adoption in Korea.  Today as I read the blog post, I cried.  He writes of a Christmas message he heard while visiting his parents. How true it is that we are all chosen by our Heavenly Father and adopted into His family and our lives are transformed because of this.

The Chosen Son - A True Christmas Story of Steve Morrison

This is a true Christmas story of my family in December 2004 that actually happened, and you have to read it to the end to understand the signifcance of the story. This story will tell you a little about who I am, and why I do what I do through MPAK.
 
It was first written in Korean, then translated into English. I heard that many people shared this story on other blogs, and some pastors have used it as illustration on their sermons. I am very privileged that so many have been blessed with this story.
 
 
The Chosen Son – A True Christmas Story
 
I will never forget the special Sunday of December 26, 2004.
My family was visiting my parents for the Christmas Holiday, and I had the opportunity to worship with my parents at their Village Seven Presbyterian Church in Colorado Springs. As members of the church, both of them had served at the church for many years.
It was the day after Christmas, and the church was filled to the capacity crowd. We dropped our kids at the children’s ministry, and my wife and I sat together with my parents to worship together. The church was predominantly white and there were around 1000 people, and it has been a while since we worshipped together. But ironically, the sermon on that day by the Pastor Wheat was on adoption.
 
Anyone who has attended some church services would have most likely heard about how God has adopted us through Jesus and given us the privilege to call Him the “Father”. The pastor spoke about the three important lessons on adoption. The first was that there is a transformation of our “special status”. That is, through adoption, an adopted child is entitled equally with the other children in the family the rights and privileges that the family bestows. Jesus Christ came to this world to give us that right.  
At the mentioning of the words “special status”, I thought about my parents sitting next to me. It occurred when they adopted me, I too underwent a transformation into a special status…from a lowly orphan to a son of great parents. This realization made me to be more appreciative of my parents while my heart was filled with gratitude.

Secondly, through adoption we have special relationships with the God the Father. The pastor claimed that adoption was God’s idea. Through adoption He has given us the right to call him “Father”. The pastor used an example where many adoptees become curious about their backgrounds and later ask the question“Why?” to the parents. “Why did my birthmother abandon me?” As many adoptees ask this question, they are often shaken by self identify as to who they are, and in some cases they fall into depression.
 
But the pastor stated that he has met many adoptive parents whose children asked such questions, and these parents have taught him some valuable lessons. The lessons came from what the parents said to the adopted children. They would say, “Do you feel you have been abandoned? We don’t fully understand how you came to be in this world, but one thing that is very clear to us is that we wanted you in the first place, and ‘we chose you’. Because of that you are more precious to us than anything in the world.” 
The pastor then stated that likewise, God has chosen us while we were yet sinners, and because He has adopted us, we now have special relationship with Him.
 
As I reflected on the statement, ‘We chose you’, I again thought about my parents sitting next to me. I thought about the hopeless days of living in an orphanage long ago. I also remember the time when my picture was featured on Holt’s newsletter at the end of my 13th year.  

In that issue of the newsletter there were pictures of many other children needing homes, and most importantly they were all younger than me. My father looked at all the pictures of the children and his eyes caught mine, and upon seeing my picture, I don’t know what inspired him, but he said to my mother, “Here is the boy. Here is my son.” That day, far away across the Pacific Ocean in America, a man chose me as his son.

As I listened to the sermon I looked at my father. He was now 81, and he could hardly walk even with a cane as he was very weak. I wondered as he was listening to these words what thoughts were running through his mind? And what would my mother be thinking of? I became curious.
Likewise, they were probably wondering the same about their son Steve.
I was chosen and adopted, and through adoption I had a special relationship with them. I was able to experience their sincere and deep love for me. Because of this I was someone very special. My wife and I adopted Joseph from Korea in 2000. Someday my boy Joseph may ask the same question, “Why?” When that day comes I hope to answer him with confidence the words filled with strength and love.
 
The third lesson on adoption was that it renews one’s life. When God adopts a person, He does not try to fix the person up. He doesn’t take apart the wrong things one by one and fix them back. Instead, He renews the person. When I heard this, I realized for the first time that there has never been a time when my parents tried to take my bad habits or behaviors and put efforts to fix them.  

Of course it doesn’t mean that they never scolded me for my mistakes, but all I know is that they never gave up on loving me, and their kindness and love made a new person out of me. They accepted my weaknesses and allowed me to experience a new love, a new family, a new faith, a new hope, and a new dream.

It was evident the pastor’s sermon moved my mother immensely. After the service my mother got out of her seat and hugged me, and she buried her face in my chest and started to sob. I understood what she was going through. Mother held me for some time and finally lifted her face up to me. Her eyes were red and filled with tears streaming down as she said, “I am so thankful that you are our son.” And then she buried her face again and cried.
 
My heart was indescribably moved, and all I could do was to caress her shoulder. I said, “No mother, it is I who is even more thankful.” My wife was watching this whole episode and she took out my video camera and starting taking shots while tears streaming down her face. I was thinking, “How could she even think about shooting this scene at a time like this?” My wife’s tears were the tears of love. My father also came over and we hugged each other. In a trembling voice, he said, “We truly are grateful that you are our son, Steve.”
 
After the service, my mother and I, along with my kids Joseph and Helen went over to the pastor Wheat to thank him for the message. Later when our family was talking in the hallway, the pastor passed us by. While he was exchanging the greetings with my parents, I directed his attention to my father sitting on a chair, and said, “Pastor, this is the Dad who chose me a long ago.” Pastor Wheat exclaimed, “That’s Wonderful!”, and after exchanging a few more words he went on his way.

In looking back on that Sunday, I couldn’t help thinking about many things. Was our visit that day a coincidence? Or was it God’s will to bless me with this experience? Or how I was reluctant to drive from LA to Colorado for the Christmas, but my wife, who was at the time eight months pregnant with the fourth child, insisted that we visit my parents for the Christmas. 


There are many possible explanations, but I believe our trip to Colorado Springs that winter was divinely guided. It was God’s affirmation of how my parents chose me as their son, as well as God’s way of showing me His story on adoption. The Christmas of 2004 will always live in my memory.

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Coming Home - The Longest Day

We awoke to a nice winter morning - cold, calm and sunny.  Around mid-morning, I looked at my e-mail and saw that my cousin Joe had emailed that North Korea had launched a rocket to commemorate our visit. Even though the e-mail was in jest, we're thankful it turned out to be a non-confrontational event at least in the short term.  It's  easy to forget that South Korea is still technically a country at war - the Korean War never officially ended.  A cease fire agreement in 1953 has held off fighting, but a peace treaty was never signed.  I hope war never breaks out again on the peninsula again, but we're especially thankful it didn't break out today.  As I consider the rocket launch, my heart breaks for the people of North Korea - their leaders are worried about missiles while millions are starving as their country decays.  (After I returned home, I started reading a book called Nothing to Envy, that gives an inside look into North Korea and the lives of everyday citizens - it's an eye opener).

Most of the morning was spent packing.  We ate leftovers for breakfast - last night's dinner, tangerines from Jeju, leftover breakfast from the previous morning, a bottle of formula (well, that was Alex anyway).  We didn't want to take it with us so we tried to clear it out.  Packing wasn't the easiest task as the kids were getting a bit stir crazy and Alex wanted to discover everything.  But we finally got it together and decided to head out for lunch.  We had heard about this fast food bibibap place called BiBiGo on the Kimchi Chronicles.  According to their website, there is a location at Gangnum station, one subway stop from our location.   Gangnum station is a fairly major subway stop with underground stores and shops so I figured we'd go there and walk around to see if we could find it.  I tried to look it up on Google Maps, but reading Korean Maps is not an art that I've mastered.  Just getting the address typed in correctly can be a challenge.
Watching gimbap being made at Gangnam station
So we set off for our one stop subway ride.  We arrived at Gangnum station and walked around for 10-15 minutes and couldn't find it anywhere.  By then the kids were getting hungry and tired and we decided that we'd go for plan B which ended up being a little restraunt where a lady was making gimbap at the entrance.  We ordered up five rolls and took them to go - most of it was eaten before we made it back to our subway stop.  On the walk back to the guest house, we stopped at a street vendor's booth to get a snack of sweet smelling waffle-like dough cooked in a peanut shaped mold with an actual peanut inside.  It was pretty good.
Waiting for KAL Shuttle with all our luggage
When we returned to the guest house, Dana inquired about getting a ride to the bus stop where the KAL airport shuttle picks up.  It's only a five minute walk, but with our 19 different pieces of luggage (that includes camera cases and kid's backpacks), it was going to be an interesting logistical challenge.  Luckily, the SWS driver was able to load up our stuff and take us down to the stop.  We arrived in time for the 2pm bus, but as we were unloading, the bus came by and decided it would be too hard or too inconvenient to stop and went right on by.  So we had to wait a half hour for the next bus.  Luckily, the stop is by the Renaissance Hotel so we took turns going inside to get warm, visit the restroom, and look at their Christmas tree, which was nice, but not quite the same stature as the Millenium Hilton.

Our ride to the airport was uneventful.  We all caught a few winks of sleep which is always a good thing when heading into a 12 hour flight.  We arrived almost four hours before our flight, but the Incheon airport is such a nice airport, I could spend half a day there without feeling too bad.  Even though its bustling with people, it has an overriding calm about it - I think it's the way its designed. 

It took us a while to get checked in since we had to purchase a ticket for Alex and we also asked if we could have a bulkhead seat so we'd have a little more space and a place for Alex to sleep.  In the bulkhead, they can attach a bassinet so a baby can sleep there and it's helpful because there is no one seated in front of you.  At first the agent informed us we'd have to pay extra for those seats, but Dana pleaded and the gate agent was nice enough to snag three of the "premium" seats for us at no cost.  Ben and I were seated in a window/middle seat 5 or 6 rows up.
Ian, a proud big brother at McDonalds in Incheon

After check-in, we looked for a McDonald's.  Ben wanted another bulgogi burger before heading back so we found the only McDonald's in the airport and got him his burger while Ian and Cami went for the exotic chicken McNugget and fries.  We took our time since we had arrived early and then we started our way through security.  We got stopped for a suspicious substance in our bags and I realized I made a packing snafu by packing our citron tea in a carry on instead of a checked bag.  It's a gel like substance so it had to go.  I couldn't even give it to the security person, she just tossed it.

By the time we walked to the gate, which seemed to be at the farthest end of the airport, our plane was ready to board.  We were standing around chatting with Nancy Fox from AIAA when the gate agent ran up to us and told us to board first since we had children.  Even though it was Delta (sorry Delta, that's not a compliment), we were in Korea and children seem to have a special place in the culture and their gate agent made the extra efffort to offered us this courtesy.   I know airlines offer pre-boards to families with children in the States, but I can't ever recall a gate agent going out of his or her way to tell us we could board early.  And the way the airlines are changing, I'm surprised those pre-boards haven't changed so that only Platinum Elite babies get the courtesy pre-board.

So you might be wondering why I titled this post the longest day.  Sure, it was a long flight with a toddler who didn't know us, but Alex really did well on the flight.  He fussed a little, but we averted long fits of screaming and he slept for a decent portion of the trip.  The reason it was the longest day was the way traveling east messes with time.  We left Incheon at 7pm and arrived in Detroit the same day at 6pm.  While it's cool to travel back in time, I wonder if the exhaustion of travel correlates with the time traveled?  If so, I think traveling back more than a few days would kill me.

The kids watching the fountain in Detroit's Terminal A
After arriving in Detroit, we had about 3 hours before our flight back to Milwaukee.  It took quite a long time to get through customs because of Alex - only certain agents could process his paperwork.  We then acquired our luggage and had a few people ask if we were moving back to the states.  Maybe we did pack a bit too much!  On the walk to our gate, we stopped at the fountain in the center of Terminal A.  By the time we arrived at our gate, they had started boarding - only an hour to go before we'd be back in Wisconsin.  The flight to Milwaukee was uneventful.  After we got off the plane, we were greeted by our friend Kristyna Wentz-Graff, a photojournalist and member of Families Through Korea Adoption - Madison (FTKA).  She was kind enough to snap pictures of our arrival home.  The picture at the top of our blog, where we are in front of the Christmas tree, is her work.
A welcome home gift from our neighbors.

After our photo shoot, we gathered the luggage, then Ben and I took a few pieces and got the car and brought it around to pick everyone up.  It was a cold, windy night, but we were warm and cozy in the van as we headed back.  While we enjoyed our time in Korea, it was nice to be back in familiar territory - well, geographically speaking.  Four children is new territory.

When we arrived home, we were greeted with a clean, warm house and a gift of cookies and a basket of fruit and bread from our dear neighbors.  It was hard to get everyone in bed as they were excited to be home, but we eventually got everyone in bed.  We then proceeded to bring in our luggage and throw our house into disarray while Alex reminded us that we were not baby proofed!

So that closes our journey to bring Alex home.  While the trip was exhausting, we are truly blessed.  We were blessed to have three wonderful children when we started our trip.  Blessed to be able to bring everyone along and spend two weeks experiencing Korea.  And blessed to return with four children.  We thank the many people who have been praying for us - we really appreciate the prayers and hope you continue to keep us in your prayers as Alex adjusts to his new home.